What I’ve Learned as a Mom of Two Under Two (Now That My Second Baby Just Turned One)

It’s wild to think my baby is a year old already. I can still remember those chaotic, beautiful, blurry early days of having two under two — the kind of days that felt both never-ending and gone in a blink.

Looking back now, I’ve learned so much about motherhood, my body, and what true nourishment actually looks like. Here are a few of the biggest lessons that changed everything for me.

1. Chasing a Toddler While Pregnant Is Way Harder Than Chasing a Toddler and a Newborn

It doesn’t make sense until you’ve lived it, but it’s true. Pregnancy fatigue while trying to keep up with a toddler is next-level.

I used to think, “How will I ever manage two?” but honestly, the newborn phase felt easier than being pregnant with a wild little one running around. Once the baby arrived, yes, it was busy, but there was also this rhythm that started to form. The exhaustion was different, but somehow it felt more manageable.

2. The Magic Between Siblings Is Everything

Yes, it’s exhausting having two little ones with constant needs. There are days when everyone is crying  (including me)  and I wonder how anyone survives this stage.

But then there are the moments that stop me in my tracks. Like when my toddler makes my baby belly laugh at dinner, and they both giggle so hard for five straight minutes that my husband and I can’t help but laugh too.

It’s the best sound in the world, pure joy, unfiltered and contagious. Watching their bond grow has been one of the greatest gifts of this season.

3. Sleep Quantity Is a Dream, but Sleep Quality Is the Game Changer

At some point, I had to make peace with the fact that a full eight hours of sleep isn’t happening anytime soon.

Once I accepted that, I started focusing on sleep quality instead. My nighttime routine has become sacred — dim lights, gentle skincare that helps me shift into “evening mode,” reading instead of scrolling, and using magnesium soaks or lotion before bed.

Those little rituals tell my body it’s safe to rest, even if it’s just for a few hours at a time.

4. Postpartum Recovery the Second Time Around Was Night and Day

My second postpartum experience was so much smoother, not because it was easier (it wasn’t!), but because I knew how to take care of myself this time.

I knew what my body needed, and I prioritized my recovery instead of pushing through.

One of the biggest things I did differently was testing my mineral status right after birth. That changed everything for my energy, mood, brain fog, sleep, metabolism, and even postpartum weight loss.

I could see on paper just how depleted my body was from two pregnancies and extended breastfeeding — and instead of guessing, I had a plan to replenish and rebuild.

It’s easy to underestimate how much your body gives in those early years (pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, sleepless nights)  it’s a marathon of giving. And when you have babies close together, there’s often no real “recovery” window in between.

My body was tired, but once I supported it with the minerals, nutrients, and nervous system regulation it truly needed, everything started to shift. I began feeling more like me again.

5. The Nervous System Piece Matters More Than I Realized

The second time around, I paid so much more attention to my nervous system.

After my first baby, I lived in a constant state of fight-or-flight — rushing through the day, checking boxes, trying to do everything “right.”

This time, I learned that slowing down and creating micro-moments of calm actually gave me more energy and patience.

Things like short walks outside, grounding barefoot in the grass, taking slow breaths while nursing, or just sitting in silence for five minutes, these became my reset buttons.

It’s not always about doing more; it’s about doing less, intentionally.

6. Your Body Is Resilient, but It Needs Support

We live in a culture that celebrates “bouncing back,” but what your body truly deserves is rebuilding.

When you replenish minerals, regulate your nervous system, and nourish yourself deeply (without restriction or guilt), you start to notice shifts everywhere — in your mood, hormones, cycle, and energy.

I feel so much more grounded, energized, and confident this year than I did after my first postpartum experience, not because I’ve “done it perfectly,” but because I finally understand what my body needs to thrive as a mom of two.

The Biggest Takeaway

Motherhood has taught me that the goal isn’t to do it all, it’s to feel good doing what matters most.

When your body feels nourished and your nervous system is calm, you show up differently... for your kids, your partner, and yourself.

Ready to Feel Like You Again?

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You deserve to feel nourished, calm, and confident, because when you feel good, everything in your home feels better too. This 2nd postpartum experience with 2 under 2 has shown me that.

xoxo

Lauran